Coaching for ENM and Poly Relationships

Whether you're exploring polyamory for the first time or looking to strengthen an established nonmonogamous relationship, my coaching offers a supportive, judgment-free space to get clear on what you want and need. I help individuals, couples, and constellations navigate the challenges and joys of open relationships—with a focus on communication, consent, boundary-setting, and queer-affirming values. Together, we’ll unpack internalized scripts, develop tools for navigating jealousy and change, and build relationships that reflect your values and desires—not just the ones you were told to want.

  • “Remy offers a compassionate, supportive, and unbiased perspective for those who seek to explore and/or navigate a safe, healthy, and consensual non-monogamous relationship. Their numerous years of experience…provides clients with the tools they need to communicate their desires, preferences, and boundaries with authenticity and intention.” - Tara

  • Remy offers unique insight into ENM practices, frameworks, dynamics and common challenges, informed both by personal experience and a deep knowledge of the literature. They will help you get clear on where you are and where you want to be; they will ask questions that spark progress, listening with curiosity and empathy; and they will support in building relationships that truly align with you.  - Carles


About Me

I’m Remy Attig, PhD, CPT, (they/them) and I bring a unique blend of academic insight, lived experience, and compassionate presence to my relationship coaching practice. With an academic background in multilingual communication and 15 years of active participation in ethically nonmonogamous and polyamorous communities, I understand firsthand how language, power, and identity intersect whenever we connect, love, and communicate.

Before stepping into coaching, I spent over a decade as an educator and researcher, exploring how people use language to make meaning and navigate difference. That background now informs a coaching approach grounded in active listening, curiosity, and radical empathy. I help clients uncover the scripts they’ve inherited, clarify their values, and build relationships—monogamous or not—that feel aligned, empowered, and sustainable.

Clients describe my style as thoughtful, warm, and disarming. Whether you're newly exploring nonmonogamy or seeking support within long-standing polyamorous dynamics, I’m here to support and offer a nonjudgmental space to reflect, communicate, and grow.

Coaching in Spanish and French is available.

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Packages

The following three virtual coaching packages are designed based on the coaching structure that would work best for your unique situationship. If you’re not sure which package is right for you, email me and we can discuss.

Following the completion of any package, we can explore approaches to ongoing support that meet your unique needs.

Solo Werk

This one-on-one coaching package is built for solo polyamorists, relationship anarchists, or anyone wanting individual support while exploring ethical nonmonogamy. Across eight weeks, we’ll dive deep into your relationship patterns, clarify your values, examine your boundaries, and help you show up with more confidence and intention in your connections.

Includes:

  • 1 intake and goal-setting session (60 minutes)

  • 5 follow-up coaching sessions (45 minutes each, at your pace)

  • Email/chat support between sessions

  • Tailored reflection prompts, communication tools, and resources

    Price: $500 for 8-week package

Small Group Werk (2-3 people)

This package is for partners who want to strengthen their connection, clarify agreements, deepen trust, or navigate transitions together. Whether you're new to ENM or seasoned poly partners, this coaching supports collaborative growth, better communication, and co-creating the kind of relationship that truly fits.

Includes:

  • 1 joint intake session (75 minutes)

  • 5 coaching sessions (60 minutes each, at your pace)

  • Structured exercises and tools

  • Email/chat support between sessions for guidance or conflict flare-ups

  • Optional: individualized check-ins available as an add-on

    Price: $750 for 8-week package

Werkshop (+3 people)

The Werkshop is an immersive, consultant-style coaching experience for your polycule, chosen family, or intimate network. It includes individual prep sessions with each participant and culminates in a lively, strategic 90-minute group workshop tailored to your collective needs. Whether you're moving in together, redefining boundaries, or simply wanting to deepen connection, the Werkshop brings structure, insight, and joy to your group dynamic.

Includes:

  • One 30-minute individual prep session per participant (up to 5 included in base price)

  • One 90-minute custom-designed virtual or in-person workshop

  • A follow-up 60-minute group debrief session two weeks later

  • A post-workshop resource kit with shared agreements, key insights, and action steps

    Price: $900 + $75 per person over 5 participants - Timeline to be negotiated.